It’s only human for us to generalize people. But just as not all Americans are fat and lazy, not all Indian colleagues are sneaky opportunists lacking social skills.
The difference lies in the gender.
Men and women in India are different – way different actually. That’s because we’re raised differently.
Indian men grow up believing they rule the world. Their mothers, aunts and cousins reinforce the idea that they’re special. That explains why most Indian men have such gigantic egos. They can’t accept defeat, especially when they are competing against the “weaker sex.”
It’s therefore only natural for them to have a tough time accepting female domination at work. You can’t really fault them because that’s how they have been conditioned by our society. I mean, if you were told you were better than ANYBODY from the opposite sex, imagine how messed up you’ll be when you’re an adult. Suddenly, you are surrounded by smart, confident women who know what they’re doing. Worst part? They are better at it than you! The horror!
The easiest trick in the book written by Indian men to deal with the situation is to resort to misogyny. The first chapter involves a step-by-step procedure to undermine the confidence of their female colleagues. You have to tell them they are no special. And the “special treatment” they receive is because of their gender. That will ensure you get under the skin of the girl in your team you envy.
Next, you have to form a “buddy club.” The club should resemble a high-school clique and include all the bros in your team. Together you can crack sexist jokes and antagonize the women in your team.
The remaining chapters can be creative. If you have a female boss, refuse to cooperate. Gather your buds and discuss ways in which you will make her life a living hell.
Think all this is too exaggerated? I wish I could tell you so. As the only woman in my male-dominated team here in Bangalore, I cannot begin to describe how ludicrously honest these scenarios are. The men in my team (all from different parts of India) represent the classic Indian male psyche. Some of their most common shtick includes secretly sucking up to the remote managers, engaging in senile competitions (who forwards the mail from HR to the managers in Europe) and making sexist remarks disguised as plain humor.
Oddly enough, there’s no trace of their so-called humor when they interact with Europeans. They would retreat into their shells and simply avoid fraternizing with their foreign counterparts. Anybody else noticed that?
In a way, I consider myself lucky I was born in an era where it’s acceptable for women to work and earn a living. Psychologically, women in India have undergone a massive evolution that has helped them step out of their homes. The same, unfortunately, cannot be said about the men here.